Whether you're dating someone who's independent or you're the one that's fiercely independent, relationships work a little differently. Independent people are self-sufficient, confident, determined, and successful.
Sometimes it can be intimidating to date someone who is so sure of themselves and loves to be alone, but it doesn't have to be. These are some things you have to remember when you're in a relationship with someone who is used to be self-sufficient and alone.
Everyone has a personal sense of dependence and there's nothing wrong with partners having different levels of independence in relationships, but it does shape how some people approach dating and other interpersonal relationships.
You Have To Be Ready To Give Them Space
They don't only value time alone and space, but they prioritize it. It doesn't mean they're not interested in you, they just know what they need and want. In fact, you'll notice the alone time and space will actually make for a healthier relationship in the long run.
They're Not Always Open About Their Needs
Another thing you might have to get used to when dating someone who is used to being independent is that they might not ask for help when they need it. They tend to have a difficult time asking, so you may have to take the initiative to see what they need.
However, it's also important to remember that those who are independent could be uncomfortable with help. Gestures like bringing them soup when they're sick are great, but don't make them uncomfortable by doing something like paying a bill for them.
Cheer For Them And Their Goals
Like any relationship, it's essential to be supportive of their goals and dreams. Those who are independent will likely have huge goals and dreams for their own lives and, if you're not supportive, it'll be a major red flag for them. They don't like anything that holds them back.
Spontaneity Is Not The Best Idea
When you're dating someone who is used to being alone it's also key to make plans in advance. You can't expect them to be available without confirming things in advance.
If they're used to being by themselves they have no problem having adventures on their own and are used to organizing their own plans, so be sure to preschedule your dates!
You Have To Respect Their Decisions
You have to make sure you respect their decisions and choices even if you don't agree with them. Independent people are often confident and determined, so they're usually strongwilled with their opinions. Trying to change their mind won't work and will likely upset them.
Get To The Point And Don't Waste Their Time
Be straightforward and avoid playing games to keep your relationship healthy. It's never a good idea to play games in a relationship, but someone who's independent will not entertain them at all. They don't have the time or energy to spend trying to figure out what's real and what’s not, and they won’t continue a relationship that forces them to do so.
You're Not Always Going To Be Their Priority
Obviously, it's important to show your partner attention, but don't expect to be the center of their universe. Dating is only a part of their world and not their focus. That doesn't mean they won't make their partner a priority, but just be aware they look at relationships a bit differently.
All In All, It Can Be A Great Experience
Dating someone who is so sure of themselves and independent is not a bad thing. You have to appreciate them for their strong-willed personality. There might be a bit of a learning curve when you first get into a relationship with them, but it'll teach you to value your own independence more.
